Dating an athlete

On the flipside though, your health freak of a partner may be too strict about avoiding foods and drinks which you cannot do without – for instance a cheeseburger or maybe a few more drinks over the weekend.

At the same time, your partner will most likely keep to early bedtimes so that late night parties and club or bar-hopping may quickly be a thing of the past for you.

Dear Meredith, I've been in a relationship with someone we'll call "Peter" for a year. (The reason he's still in college is because he took time off between high school and college to play a sport - not because he's stupid and got held back or anything like that). He's not mine - I was in a three-and-a-half year relationship that ended right before (literally, the day before) he and I started hanging out. Can one have a successful relationship with a soon-to-be professional athlete?

I've been living with Peter full-time at his apartment for quite a while. I have a ton of stuff here - so much so, that it would take me at least a full day to move out. My concern is this: Since the beginning, I've tried to be the rock in our relationship. Step 2: Instead of spiraling about all of the unknowns, talk to Peter about what you know. Have a talk about your options for what comes next. But don't freak out so much that it ruins your nice, blissful, cat-sharing relationship. And for the record, you would not be "utterly lost" without Peter.

On the other hand if you are not the outdoors kind of person, dating an athlete may be difficult for the simple reason that your partner will be spending a lot of time out in the open.

If you are a strict homebird and any hint of inclement weather sends you scurrying indoors, then you may find quality time with your partner rather restricted.

If you do so, your partner will feel wretched and unable to focus on his/her game.

Don’t complain Athletes spend a lot of time training – it is important, indeed, crucial for their performance on the field.Last I checked, there were only a few tickets available for the Feb.12 Mortified event, so get them fast. We will be having a pre-party in Harvard Square from about 8 to 10 p.m. I have my own place, but I literally haven't unpacked since I moved there six months ago. If you have to have crazy drunk talk, do it in front of friends. And, for the record, the idea of dumping him to break your own fall seems a bit silly to me. Dating an almost-professional athlete is incredibly scary. He has the potential to get signed any day, which basically means he has the potential to leave any day. Showing drunken vulnerability and behaving like a train wreck will make him love you less, but that's got nothing to do with losing your "rock" persona. Your manic worrying and acting out is pushing him away. You're going to be OK, no matter how this works out. But we haven't made it this far just because I was rebounding - I've genuinely developed feelings for him and at this point, I think I love him too much for my own good. "Peter" is finishing up his final season playing his sport and thus his final full year at college, where I will remain for another year. Maybe if you have a tentative idea of what will happen, you'll relax a bit. Peter's love for you isn't tied to your ability to be blasé about him. Showing vulnerability won't make him want you less. I'll admit, this whole relationship began with a one night fling. Does this one go in our booze chapter or our insecurity chapter?

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